Peace • Serenity • Freedom — what do you seek in life?

by Girl // January 23, 2017 // 6 Comments

Peace • Serenity • Freedom I hear these words being used interchangeably by my CoDA mates. I guess that’s what we are all seeking at the end of the day. Inner peace that isn’t shaken by external chaos. Serenity and... Continue reading →

Trust the timing of your life

by Girl // January 22, 2017 // 10 Comments

Trust The Timing Of Your Life I first encountered this quote in recovery. In Codependency literature, we are told that we are exactly where we need to be in our recovery. To trust the pace of what is unfolding, never... Continue reading →

You are either Present or you are Absent

by Girl // January 21, 2017 // 4 Comments

You are either Present or you are Absent I’m reading Eckhart Tolle’s The Power Of Now. What strikes me is the epiphany about presence. I’ve read the words “Now”, “Present”, “Presence” often in the book, but not really thinking what... Continue reading →

Be yourself, everyone else is already taken

by Girl // January 18, 2017 // 7 Comments

Have you heard of the “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken” quote? Being “me” vs the ideal daughter and sister I realised that being authentic, being myself and not trying to conform to society’s or other people’s standards also includes not... Continue reading →

Today’s Miracle

by Girl // January 17, 2017 // 7 Comments

Today’s Miracles I’m having noodles I like across from my home. I can enjoy the taste of the noodles on my tongue. I have money to pay for my meal. My CoDA friend J, who has moved away, texted me... Continue reading →

Do you think asking for help is a weakness?

by Girl // January 12, 2017 // 3 Comments

Asking for help does not mean you’re Weak It requires Courage, Humility & Strength …And don’t you forget it! So what inspired this post Today a CoDA member, who’s a fellow key holder (as am I), told me they can’t... Continue reading →

Whispers of my heart — what my heart desires

by Girl // January 11, 2017 // 5 Comments

Whispers of my heart I talked to my old friend S a few days ago, and these words still linger and loom: “I know you want to be close to your sister…” I didn’t pay much attention to it at first.... Continue reading →

Don’t Mistake Your Strength For A Weakness

by Girl // January 9, 2017 // 3 Comments

Don’t Mistake Your Strength For A Weakness Yesterday when talking to my old friend, something he said, that I didn’t acknowledge, was him affirming me that I’m taking action to change things. He shared that it took him 20 years... Continue reading →

Hug yourself today

by Girl // January 9, 2017 // 10 Comments

Hug yourself today My sister got married on Sat 7 Jan. I was sleep deprived in preparation for the day. After the entire do that night, without showering, I crashed on the couch. I woke up at 6am to see... Continue reading →

I love my body

by Girl // January 6, 2017 // 12 Comments

I love my body Today was the first CoDA meeting of 2017. During the time for open sharing, while listening to other members share, I was looking down at myself. And this thought flashed across my mind – I LOVE... Continue reading →

You are your gift to the world

by Girl // January 5, 2017 // 12 Comments

You are your gift to the world I’m feeling low today. After responding to some posts on IG, I realise a repetitive sense of worthlessness. I’m plagued by my low (or no) self esteem, where I don’t think I bring... Continue reading →

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings

by Girl // December 30, 2016 // 11 Comments

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings I finally sent my soon-to-be brother-in-law a text telling him how I feel toward his behaviour and attitude toward me. I composed it carefully, ensuring that I used “I” statements and did... Continue reading →

The Universe provides

by Girl // December 28, 2016 // 9 Comments

The Universe provides One of my fave mantras that I hope I’ll continue posting about in 2017. Tonight, for my “day job”, I met someone who is a referral of a friend’s friend. She became a client, just like that. It... Continue reading →

I have a fractured family… and that’s OK

by Girl // December 23, 2016 // 38 Comments

I have a fractured family… and that’s OK Part of the recovery journey is to accept things for what they are, and not what you expect them to be. My family started breaking apart since the deterioration of my parents’... Continue reading →

Everyone has a story

by Girl // December 20, 2016 // 22 Comments

Everyone has a story Behind the face of everyone you see, there is a life they’ve lived that you can’t see. You wouldn’t know why someone is how they are, be it positive or negative. You may like them or... Continue reading →

What I’ve learned at Codependents Anonymous in a year

by Girl // December 18, 2016 // 27 Comments

I celebrated my first year in Codependents Anonymous At Codependents Anonymous (CoDA) meetings, “CoDA birthdays” are celebrated and marked with chips. I really like the message on each one: To Thine Own Self Be True. I celebrated my one year with CoDA in... Continue reading →

It’s OK

by Girl // December 15, 2016 // 16 Comments

It’s OK It’s ok if you decide to change your mind. It’s ok to feel however you’re feeling. All feelings are valid. It’s ok to change course. Nothing in life is set in stone. You’re not living to anyone’s expectations.... Continue reading →

Keep On Keeping On

by Girl // December 13, 2016 // 9 Comments

Keep on keeping on I was introduced to this phrase by my group therapy mate, A. It’s from a Bob Dylan song. Whenever she signs off her emails with it, this is my way of knowing that she cares. We’ve... Continue reading →

A celebration of firsts—my Etsy shop

by Girl // November 30, 2016 // 64 Comments

Over the last few days I experienced a few “firsts”. My Etsy shop is up and running! YESSSS! It’s alive! Go check out this cheery newborn at Girl in Therapy on Etsy! Today, I celebrate it being one-week old. It was... Continue reading →

Stick some affirmation quotes on your fridge today!

by Girl // November 20, 2016 // 39 Comments

UPDATE: Shop my quote magnets for mental health right here! The tribe has spoken. The 10 most-Liked designs are out! I’m referring to my affirmation quotes magnet project 🙂 (Scroll down to see which they are.) What is my affirmation quote... Continue reading →