Happy Chinese New Year

by Girl // January 29, 2017 // 6 Comments

Happy Chinese New Year To all who celebrate, wishing you a Happy Chinese or Lunar New Year! To give you some insight – mine is an anonymous account after all – I’m of Chinese descent. Some people refer to us... Continue reading →

? You See Others As You See Yourself ?

by Girl // January 27, 2017 // 4 Comments

? You see others as you see yourself ? Sometimes this phrase is said: You see others as you are. What this quote means is that we typically see others based on our own personal histories, our knowledge of the... Continue reading →

Peace • Serenity • Freedom — what do you seek in life?

by Girl // January 23, 2017 // 6 Comments

Peace • Serenity • Freedom I hear these words being used interchangeably by my CoDA mates. I guess that’s what we are all seeking at the end of the day. Inner peace that isn’t shaken by external chaos. Serenity and... Continue reading →

Trust the timing of your life

by Girl // January 22, 2017 // 10 Comments

Trust The Timing Of Your Life I first encountered this quote in recovery. In Codependency literature, we are told that we are exactly where we need to be in our recovery. To trust the pace of what is unfolding, never... Continue reading →

You are either Present or you are Absent

by Girl // January 21, 2017 // 4 Comments

You are either Present or you are Absent I’m reading Eckhart Tolle’s The Power Of Now. What strikes me is the epiphany about presence. I’ve read the words “Now”, “Present”, “Presence” often in the book, but not really thinking what... Continue reading →

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Be yourself, everyone else is already taken

by Girl // January 18, 2017 // 7 Comments

Have you heard of the “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken” quote? Being “me” vs the ideal daughter and sister I realised that being authentic, being myself and not trying to conform to society’s or other people’s standards also includes not... Continue reading →

Today’s Miracle

by Girl // January 17, 2017 // 7 Comments

Today’s Miracles I’m having noodles I like across from my home. I can enjoy the taste of the noodles on my tongue. I have money to pay for my meal. My CoDA friend J, who has moved away, texted me... Continue reading →

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Do you think asking for help is a weakness?

by Girl // January 12, 2017 // 3 Comments

Asking for help does not mean you’re Weak It requires Courage, Humility & Strength …And don’t you forget it! So what inspired this post Today a CoDA member, who’s a fellow key holder (as am I), told me they can’t... Continue reading →

Whispers of my heart — what my heart desires

by Girl // January 11, 2017 // 5 Comments

Whispers of my heart I talked to my old friend S a few days ago, and these words still linger and loom: “I know you want to be close to your sister…” I didn’t pay much attention to it at first.... Continue reading →

Don’t Mistake Your Strength For A Weakness

by Girl // January 9, 2017 // 3 Comments

Don’t Mistake Your Strength For A Weakness Yesterday when talking to my old friend, something he said, that I didn’t acknowledge, was him affirming me that I’m taking action to change things. He shared that it took him 20 years... Continue reading →

Hug yourself today

by Girl // January 9, 2017 // 10 Comments

Hug yourself today My sister got married on Sat 7 Jan. I was sleep deprived in preparation for the day. After the entire do that night, without showering, I crashed on the couch. I woke up at 6am to see... Continue reading →

I love my body

by Girl // January 6, 2017 // 12 Comments

I love my body Today was the first CoDA meeting of 2017. During the time for open sharing, while listening to other members share, I was looking down at myself. And this thought flashed across my mind – I LOVE... Continue reading →

You are your gift to the world

by Girl // January 5, 2017 // 12 Comments

You are your gift to the world I’m feeling low today. After responding to some posts on IG, I realise a repetitive sense of worthlessness. I’m plagued by my low (or no) self esteem, where I don’t think I bring... Continue reading →

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Month: January 2017