The man who changed my life and why I stopped therapy in 2016

by Girl // July 12, 2017 // No Comments

Therapy with Steve, the man who changed my life I started seeing my therapist, Steve Hauptman, in Sept 2015. He is based in New York, and since I’m based in Asia, we had our sessions via Skype. The reasons I... Continue reading →

2016 look back 7 ways of personal growth

2016 look back: 7 ways I’ve grown as a person

by Girl // February 1, 2017 // 10 Comments

2016 was a year of personal growth I looked back on the year as best as I could and found 7 ways I’ve grown as a person. I’ve never done this before. Like in my post on my first CoDA birthday,... Continue reading →

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Be yourself, everyone else is already taken

by Girl // January 18, 2017 // 7 Comments

Have you heard of the “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken” quote? Being “me” vs the ideal daughter and sister I realised that being authentic, being myself and not trying to conform to society’s or other people’s standards also includes not... Continue reading →

The 4 A’s everyone needs: Attention, Affection, Approval, Acceptance

by Girl // April 3, 2016 // 9 Comments

I was made aware during group therapy today by Steve that I was a hungry person growing up (left starving) and now the situation has not changed, after my new phase in life — marriage. He helped me see that I... Continue reading →

The shaming has not stopped

by Girl // February 8, 2016 // No Comments

Ringing in Chinese New Year It’s the Eve of Chinese New Year, a big festival for us. We had Reunion Dinner on 7 Feb, Sun night. It seems like my mother has not gotten tired of publicly shaming me yet. The... Continue reading →

An unexpected epiphany of self-sabotage

by Girl // January 23, 2016 // No Comments

I had an epiphany when watching this video. (Update: I found the video missing. If the code is ever broken again, this is the direct link.) I’m self-employed and Christopher Duncan is the latest motivational business coach I follow. I did... Continue reading →

Detaching in love: My parents are “dead”

by Girl // January 20, 2016 // 15 Comments

Today is the day I finally accept that my parents are dead. More specifically, today is the day I come to terms that my IDEA of an ideal father and mother are dead. These “ideal” people do not exist My hope that... Continue reading →

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