I have a fractured family… and that’s OK

I have a fractured family... and that's OK - girlintherapy

I have a fractured family… and that’s OK

Part of the recovery journey is to accept things for what they are, and not what you expect them to be.

My family started breaking apart since the deterioration of my parents’ relationship in the early years. My parents are also the worst communicators.

This quote came to mind because I realised I haven’t fully accepted that my sister will never be the person I hope she’d be. When replying her text a few days ago, I was literally shaking, and was quite alarmed at what was happening.

And regarding my mom, who still to this day, complains about her children to her children, this thought flashed across my mind but I didn’t get a chance to tell her: We don’t have a happy family and we never will; if you learn to accept this, maybe you will find some inner peace and finally feel happy for once. I hope to tell her this one day – though I don’t know if the message will be lost on her.

In other news, I led the meeting for the first time at CoDA (Codependents Anonymous) tonight!!! Such a relief that I finally did it and it was less scary than I thought! I’m grateful for N who put the folder in my hands, and for some reason I didn’t feel like pushing it away this time 😀

 

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38 comments

  1. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:
  2. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @ourminifamily Glad you could relate

  3. bracelets_spark profile image
    bracelets_spark says:

    🏽

  4. ourminifamily profile image
    ourminifamily says:

    This quote resonates very much so with me. I needed this <3 thank you

  5. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @soiree_event_design @jeanatravels Thank you, and yes you’re right. Boundaries are also important – in preserving one’s sanity and the fact that we all have the right to have them and that they should be respected

  6. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @marison459 @lcandlovingit It’s not so much of being a perfect family, just “normal” or non-toxic would be a vast improvement

  7. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @bephoenixfit Thank you… I’m glad you could relate Hugs, too

  8. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @mommyscene @stylistevelina Merry Christmas to you too

  9. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @beverlywalthour Thank you – it is a milestone for me!

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  13. stylistevelina profile image
    stylistevelina says:

    Absolutely! Merry Christmas!

  14. rojielizah profile image
    rojielizah says:

    nice!

  15. viabella.thebeautifullife profile image
    viabella.thebeautifullife says:

    #truth

  16. bethaneydanne profile image
    bethaneydanne says:

    Great progress!

  17. habibatangan profile image
    habibatangan says:

    Very true! 🙂

  18. thebookswag profile image
    thebookswag says:

    oh yes, that is ok. xo

  19. kimmkruse profile image
    kimmkruse says:

    So true to accept things for what they are 🙂 Love!

  20. soiree_event_design profile image
    soiree_event_design says:

    acceptance is the key to happiness

  21. jeanatravels profile image
    jeanatravels says:

    I think this is something a lot of people struggle with. Deep down they always hope their family will change, but real happiness lies in accepting their shortcomings and finding your own peace

  22. lowcarbrocks profile image
    lowcarbrocks says:

    not all families are perfect and yes, that’s okay!

  23. mommyscene profile image
    mommyscene says:

    have a very merry Christmas

  24. marison459 profile image
    marison459 says:

    I think we all have a little fracture here and there in our family. If they don’t, they are pretty darn lucky!

  25. spotlightonhappiness profile image
    spotlightonhappiness says:

    Just came across this, cool account!

  26. beverlywalthour profile image
    beverlywalthour says:

    Congrats on leading the meeting!

  27. bephoenixfit profile image
    bephoenixfit says:

    I grew up in a similar way, so I can understand where you’re coming from. Hugs.

  28. khristajarvisteam profile image
    khristajarvisteam says:

    Well said!

  29. stacieinatlanta profile image
    stacieinatlanta says:

    I ADORE this.

  30. mgcasella profile image
    mgcasella says:

    That’s , don’t worry.

  31. travelloafers profile image
    travelloafers says:

    It is

  32. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @mewshady01 Aww you always say the nicest things 🙂

  33. askchefdennis profile image
    askchefdennis says:

    You’re definitely now alone !

  34. mewshady01 profile image
    mewshady01 says:

    Said perfectly.

  35. girlintherapy profile image
    girlintherapy says:

    @femalesanonymous You’re absolutely right ♡

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