Is this a panic attack?

by Girl // March 30, 2017 // 29 Comments

Is this how a panic attack feels like? I AM FREAKING OUT RIGHT NOW AND AM TRYING TO CALM DOWN. I was speaking gibberish to my husb when I called him. Are these symptoms of Panic??? I see roaches There has... Continue reading →

2016 look back 7 ways of personal growth

2016 look back: 7 ways I’ve grown as a person

by Girl // February 1, 2017 // 10 Comments

2016 was a year of personal growth I looked back on the year as best as I could and found 7 ways I’ve grown as a person. I’ve never done this before. Like in my post on my first CoDA birthday,... Continue reading →

👁 You See Others As You See Yourself 👁

by Girl // January 27, 2017 // 4 Comments

👁 You see others as you see yourself 👁 Sometimes this phrase is said: You see others as you are. What this quote means is that we typically see others based on our own personal histories, our knowledge of the... Continue reading →

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings

by Girl // December 30, 2016 // 11 Comments

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings I finally sent my soon-to-be brother-in-law a text telling him how I feel toward his behaviour and attitude toward me. I composed it carefully, ensuring that I used “I” statements and did... Continue reading →

Keep On Keeping On

by Girl // December 13, 2016 // 9 Comments

Keep on keeping on I was introduced to this phrase by my group therapy mate, A. It’s from a Bob Dylan song. Whenever she signs off her emails with it, this is my way of knowing that she cares. We’ve... Continue reading →

I need this space as much as it needs me

by Girl // November 1, 2016 // 2 Comments

I miss this space It’s been too long since I stopped writing here. This space is my home on the web. My various Social Media channels are like my arms; they radiate outward but also lead back here. For thought... Continue reading →

Recognising Feelings — from The Language of Letting Go

by Girl // February 25, 2016 // No Comments

Experiencing feelings can be a challenge if we’ve had no previous experience or permission to do that. Learning to identify what we’re feeling is a challenge we can meet, but we will not become experts overnight. Nor do we have... Continue reading →

I fear my own wedding video

by Girl // January 5, 2016 // No Comments

My wedding videographer has sent me the video in November for my review before it is being finalised and their job would be complete. My husband has said I can look at it and decide, he doesn’t need to give... Continue reading →

Decide, do and don’t hold on to the outcome

by Girl // January 4, 2016 // No Comments

So I brought up my agony with this group of friends at group therapy. Steve used a parallel: he asked if the three of us have been been dumped before. Two of us said yes, while one has been married really early... Continue reading →

Emotional awareness

by Girl // January 3, 2016 // No Comments

Steve has taught me that there are four emotions: Mad Glad Sad Scared Over all this time, I’ve learnt not to feel. Because I’ve been programmed by my childhood that feelings are “troublesome”. So, I’m not in touch with my... Continue reading →

Girl in Therapy

A Recovering Codependent . . .

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