It’s not the end (of the world), if…
- someone hasn’t replied my email
- I missed a deadline
- I seem all over the place, and things are not being carried out as “planned”
Is doomsday upon me?
I used to be a master planner. I’m not sure where these skills have gone. Maybe I’m good at planning for stuff that isn’t my own, so there’s some kind of detachment(?)
I tend to think something is doomed when my expectations are not met, when I (very sketchily) planned something and it didn’t pan out – not yet at least.
Black & White thinking
It’s a common thread of black & white thinking, being hard on my self (lack of self love), thinking it’s “not ok” when things are actually ok, forgetting to take one step at a time while being very impatient for things to fall in place.
Melody Beattie said in The Language of Letting Go: “We don’t have to do recovery perfectly.”
I think it’s the same for most processes, at least at the beginning… It may start as a mess, but that’s ok. And amidst this “mess”, a path will be carved out, things get clearer and more orderly…
Trust the process, I guess.
Holding my horses; will learn to be patient, gentle and kind with myself.
If you are feeling hopeless today, I hope this post will comfort you—because you clearly are not alone in this—and it can possibly encourage you to shake off any sense of hopelessness!!!
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