This is a new weekly series of reflections regarding the day’s meditation in The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie that is read aloud at the CoDependents Anonymous (CoDA) meetings I attend weekly.
FEB 23 Meditation:
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
We don’t always have to be strong to be strong. Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes, we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track.
We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, cannot be strong.
There are days when we cannot focus on being responsible. Occasionally, we don’t want to get out of our pajamas. Sometimes, we cry in front of people. We expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger.
Those days are okay. They are just okay.
Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to “fall apart” when we need to. We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength. We are strong. We have proven that. Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings.
Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to “fall apart.”
Almost every sentence in this meditation is mention-worthy!!!
“Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable.”
It takes STRENGTH, COURAGE, HONESTY and HUMILITY to show vulnerability.
We are not weak when we show others our vulnerable side. It is OK to be tired. It is OK to be confused. It is OK to be upset.
“Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to ‘fall apart’ when we need to.”
There is strength in knowing that we are NOT always strong. That IT IS PERFECTLY OK to be in shambles sometimes.
If we know our self-worth and are secure in simply being who we are, we don’t have to question ourselves when we feel like we need a break.
We are not weak if we…
“cannot push any harder”
“cannot hold back self-doubt”
“cannot stop focusing on fear”
“cannot be strong”
“cannot focus on being responsible”
“don’t want to get out of our pajamas”
“cry in front of people”
“expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger”
We are not machines, we are not “perfect”, we need rest and time-outs.
We do not need to prove ourselves to anybody!
Feeling “weak” does not mean you are weak; it means you have the strength to be aware of how you are feeling.
“We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength. Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings.”
You have EVERY permission to feel however you do and to decide what is best for you. You don’t need anyone else’s validation except your own.
Positive quotes that come to mind are:
Do you have any thoughts from this reading? Please feel free to share with me in the comments below, I’d love to discourse and exchange views with you 🙂
The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
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