Reflections: The Language of Letting Go – Strength


This is a new weekly series of reflections regarding the day’s meditation in The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie that is read aloud at the CoDependents Anonymous (CoDA) meetings I attend weekly.


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FEB 23 Meditation:

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

Strength

We don’t always have to be strong to be strong. Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes, we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track.

 

We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, cannot be strong.

 

strength - language of letting go - pin - girlintherapyThere are days when we cannot focus on being responsible. Occasionally, we don’t want to get out of our pajamas. Sometimes, we cry in front of people. We expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger.

 

Those days are okay. They are just okay.

 

Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to “fall apart” when we need to. We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength. We are strong. We have proven that. Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings.

 

Prayer

Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to “fall apart.”

Almost every sentence in this meditation is mention-worthy!!!

“Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable.”

It takes STRENGTH, COURAGE, HONESTY and HUMILITY to show vulnerability.

We are not weak when we show others our vulnerable side. It is OK to be tired. It is OK to be confused. It is OK to be upset.

“Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to ‘fall apart’ when we need to.”

There is strength in knowing that we are NOT always strong. That IT IS PERFECTLY OK to be in shambles sometimes.

If we know our self-worth and are secure in simply being who we are, we don’t have to question ourselves when we feel like we need a break.

We are not weak if we…

“cannot push any harder”
“cannot hold back self-doubt”
“cannot stop focusing on fear”
“cannot be strong”
“cannot focus on being responsible”
“don’t want to get out of our pajamas”
“cry in front of people”
“expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger”

We are not machines, we are not “perfect”, we need rest and time-outs.

We do not need to prove ourselves to anybody!

Feeling “weak” does not mean you are weak; it means you have the strength to be aware of how you are feeling.

“We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength. Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings.”

You have EVERY permission to feel however you do and to decide what is best for you. You don’t need anyone else’s validation except your own.

Positive quotes that come to mind are:

It Is Ok

Be Kind To Yourself Today

Self Care is Self Love

Your Feelings Are Valid

You Are Enough

Perfect Is Boring

 

Do you have any thoughts from this reading? Please feel free to share with me in the comments below, I’d love to discourse and exchange views with you 🙂


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20 comments

  1. Mal says:

    You know, you can never better yourself and learn if you’re not making mistakes. Falling apart gives you an option to rebuild yourself in a better way!

    • Girl says:

      Yes, Tamara, “falling apart” is OK, it’s just something that happens. It doesn’t mean we are failures! And rest – so important too 🙂

  2. Reuven says:

    This is such a beautiful and terrific post. You’ve written so eloquently about such an important topic, finding and cherishing the strength within ourselves.

    We’re so glad you shared this with us at the #TrafficJamWeekend party and hope you’ll join and share more of your great posts every week. 🙂

    • Girl says:

      Thank you for your gracious words, as always, Reuven. And am glad to be part of your #TrafficJamWeekend link party for sure!

    • Girl says:

      Thanks Shernell. This is what my blog is about; being wide open and honest about what I feel and think through my recovery journey 🙂 Hope you’ll come by and visit more often if this is the kind of posts you’d like to read!

    • Girl says:

      Indeed, this is exactly what this post is about. We are human and we are not strong ALL the time — and there is Strength in being to admit to ourselves this 🙂

  3. Katriza says:

    Beautiful post! It’s really hard to let things go and by doing so gives you so much strength! I’ve been there where I was unable to let things go and it was a really rough time for me. Group of ladies helped me get through it and I am so happy I ended up better and not bitter!

    • Girl says:

      It’s so great that you found your tribe, Katriza. I look forward to finding mine. And thankfully you’re in a better place now – letting go is definitely a process and you’ve come a long way 🙂

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