Why do I take things so seriously
I don’t know about you, but I take things way too seriously sometimes (actually, a lot of the time).
For example… the mobile games I play and also the TV shows I watch.
Mobile games
I currently play Gordon Ramsay DASH, Pokémon GO, Neko Atsume: Kitty Collector…
For games I want to use the best strategies, win all battles, make sure I don’t use coins unnecessarily etc etc etc.
And then I catch myself, and then tell myself time and again: it’s just a game! Don’t need to be so serious about it! If you lose, then you lose. If you use up all your coins, you can win/get them back!
TV shows
For TV shows, I really get into the characters and I become really invested. Not only the TV characters but the actors too; I’ll research them on IMDb, wiki, etc…
Shows I’m currently watching: Leverage
I’ve noticed this recently, so I got a bit more aware.
Possible reasons I take things too seriously
I suspect it’s one or all of these things:
- -> my natural inclination toward obsessing about people, places and things (Codependency Avoidance Patterns)
- -> due to my detail-oriented nature I become obsessive really easily
- -> obsessiveness is a behaviour of an addict?
- -> obsessiveness is my subconscious behaviour to avoid dealing with important things
- -> I get sucked in and want to “know it all” about whatever it is that I’m interested at the moment
- -> maybe obsessing about harmless/unimportant things makes me feel safe
- -> I need to find out what important stuff I’ve been avoiding!
Anyone can relate at all to what I’m saying?
Do you also take things way too seriously when you don’t have to?
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Totally get it. Thinking too much syndrome
@yellow.ledbetter88 In short, my taking things too seriously = unhealthy obsessiveness.
@yellow.ledbetter88 I know what you mean – and yes, we all have our own definitions, limits and parameters on what we define as too much, ok, or too little. It’s def 100% to be invested in healthy activities, or activities that others don’t “understand”/agree with, and no, not taking their opinion into “consideration”. Because only you yourself know/decide what’s good for you. In my post, I wrote about my observations on my own behaviour where I go over the limit (my own definition) on how invested I should be in a certain activity. And I notice I tend to do that a lot. So I’m wondering why aloud!
Sorry that was waaaaay longer than intended
I dunno if getting invested in things is a bad thing? Yes ok there are things and people that it’s unhealthy to get invested in, and of course it’s important to be able to laugh at yourself and see things from a different perspective.. But in my experience the people who’ve told me not to take certain things too seriously just aren’t as connected to whatever it is I am connecting to. It depends if the time you’re spending on particular activities in benefiting you in some way. E.g. I can get lost in games and while some might see it as a distraction from what I “should” be doing, I see it as much needed time out, for my brain to focus on something that isn’t my mental health or on going chores etc. When my head is busy and I don’t engage in something positive it quickly enters a negative space, so I feel like if a game or tv show is a break from that it isn’t a bad thing? When I have the capacity to do the “should do”s I do them. And allowing time to disconnect and take a break from things is an important part of my self care. Would love to hear your thoughts!
I can relate to a lot of this….
Yep probably