I have a fractured family… and that’s OK
Part of the recovery journey is to accept things for what they are, and not what you expect them to be.
My family started breaking apart since the deterioration of my parents’ relationship in the early years. My parents are also the worst communicators.
This quote came to mind because I realised I haven’t fully accepted that my sister will never be the person I hope she’d be. When replying her text a few days ago, I was literally shaking, and was quite alarmed at what was happening.
And regarding my mom, who still to this day, complains about her children to her children, this thought flashed across my mind but I didn’t get a chance to tell her: We don’t have a happy family and we never will; if you learn to accept this, maybe you will find some inner peace and finally feel happy for once. I hope to tell her this one day – though I don’t know if the message will be lost on her.
In other news, I led the meeting for the first time at CoDA (Codependents Anonymous) tonight!!! Such a relief that I finally did it and it was less scary than I thought! I’m grateful for N who put the folder in my hands, and for some reason I didn’t feel like pushing it away this time ?
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@ourminifamily Glad you could relate
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This quote resonates very much so with me. I needed this <3 thank you
@soiree_event_design @jeanatravels Thank you, and yes you’re right. Boundaries are also important – in preserving one’s sanity and the fact that we all have the right to have them and that they should be respected
@marison459 @lcandlovingit It’s not so much of being a perfect family, just “normal” or non-toxic would be a vast improvement
@bephoenixfit Thank you… I’m glad you could relate Hugs, too
@mommyscene @stylistevelina Merry Christmas to you too
@beverlywalthour Thank you – it is a milestone for me!
@rojielizah @viabella.thebeautifullife @bethaneydanne @habibatangan @thebookswag @kimmkruse
@stacieinatlanta @khristajarvisteam Thanks!
@travelloafers @mgcasella @spotlightonhappiness
Absolutely! Merry Christmas!
nice!
#truth
Great progress!
Very true! 🙂
oh yes, that is ok. xo
So true to accept things for what they are 🙂 Love!
acceptance is the key to happiness
I think this is something a lot of people struggle with. Deep down they always hope their family will change, but real happiness lies in accepting their shortcomings and finding your own peace
not all families are perfect and yes, that’s okay!
have a very merry Christmas
I think we all have a little fracture here and there in our family. If they don’t, they are pretty darn lucky!
Just came across this, cool account!
Congrats on leading the meeting!
I grew up in a similar way, so I can understand where you’re coming from. Hugs.
Well said!
I ADORE this.
That’s , don’t worry.
It is
@mewshady01 Aww you always say the nicest things 🙂
You’re definitely now alone !
Said perfectly.
@femalesanonymous You’re absolutely right ♡
@mendingmatters Thanks
Acceptance creates space for peace
This