Celebrate recovery: Codependency

by Girl // April 14, 2017 // 1 Comment

This is a guest post by my recovery buddy and friend, J. He surprised me by sending me this guest post for my blog out of the blue one day. It really touches my heart that he wanted to share... Continue reading →

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Do you take things too seriously?

by Girl // March 8, 2017 // 7 Comments

Why do I�take things so seriously I don’t know about you, but I take things way too seriously sometimes (actually, a lot of the time). For example… the mobile games I play�and also the TV shows I watch. Mobile games... Continue reading →

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Do you procrastinate like I do?

by Girl // March 2, 2017 // 25 Comments

Why do I have a procrastination problem? Do you procrastinate like I do? Currently there are things waiting for me to do… Like to open bills, pay bills, open government letters, buy my supplements, reply emails (both work and personal),... Continue reading →

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Reflections: The Language of Letting Go – Detachment

by Girl // February 16, 2017 // 13 Comments

I decided to start this as a means of discipline, structure and healthy routine for myself, as well as to establish�a regular column for my readers. FEB 16 Meditation: From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie Detachment The... Continue reading →

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2017 New Year’s resolutions: Healthy Heart, Mind, Body & Spirit

by Girl // February 2, 2017 // 11 Comments

Here’s to better Health in the new year While on my mental health recovery journey, I’ve come to know the saying that “Mental health is as important as physical health”. This was illuminating to me. And I fully agree! As... Continue reading →

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2016 look back: 7 ways I’ve grown as a person

by Girl // February 1, 2017 // 10 Comments

2016 was a year of personal growth I looked back on the year as best as I could and found 7 ways I’ve grown as a person. I’ve never done this�before. Like in my post on my first CoDA birthday,... Continue reading →

? You See Others As You See Yourself ?

by Girl // January 27, 2017 // 4 Comments

? You see others as you see yourself ? Sometimes this phrase is said: You see others as you are. What this quote means is that we typically see others based on our own personal histories, our knowledge of the... Continue reading →

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Be yourself, everyone else is already taken

by Girl // January 18, 2017 // 7 Comments

Have you heard of the “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken” quote? Being “me”�vs�the ideal daughter and sister I realised that being authentic, being myself and not trying to conform to society’s or other people’s standards also includes not... Continue reading →

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings

by Girl // December 30, 2016 // 11 Comments

We are not responsible for someone else’s feelings I finally sent my soon-to-be brother-in-law a text telling him how I feel toward his behaviour and attitude toward me. I composed it carefully, ensuring that I used “I” statements and did... Continue reading →

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I have a fractured family… and that’s OK

by Girl // December 23, 2016 // 38 Comments

I have a fractured family… and that’s OK Part of the recovery journey is to accept things for what they are, and not what you expect them to be. My family started breaking apart since the deterioration of my parents’... Continue reading →

What I’ve learned at Codependents Anonymous in a year

by Girl // December 18, 2016 // 27 Comments

I celebrated my first�year�in Codependents Anonymous At Codependents Anonymous (CoDA) meetings,�”CoDA birthdays” are celebrated and marked with chips. I really like the message on each one: To Thine Own Self Be True. I celebrated my one year with CoDA in... Continue reading →

Fear of rejection: It’s not me, it’s them

by Girl // July 8, 2016 // No Comments

on Instagram: http://ift.tt/1UuxLCO Epiphany: I realise my mortal fear of rejection by anyone comes from the years of being around my overly critical mother. I never felt accepted by the closest people in my life. So I fought back a... Continue reading →

CoDA 14 Day Program: Day 1 and 2

by Girl // June 4, 2016 // 1 Comment

This is a long, long overdue post. I started my CoDA (CoDependents Anonymous) 14 Day program with my CoDA friend, AT, who agreed to be my sponsor. You may read about what the 14 Day program is and my decision... Continue reading →

Monkeytraps book review: We are all control addicts

by Girl // May 21, 2016 // 38 Comments

Imagine being told you’re an addict, a control addict. What is a control addict, you might ask? Are you a control addict? Find out more… in my Monkeytraps book review. First, a�little background My therapist,�Steve Hauptman, published a book called... Continue reading →

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I will be embarking on the CoDA 14 Day program

by Girl // April 13, 2016 // 2 Comments

Over the weekend I met with a CoDa friend, AT. He has agreed to be my sponsor for the CoDa 14 Day program. The 14 Day program is an initiation to Codependency/CoDA�and precursor to the 12 Step recovery program. It... Continue reading →

I finally said No

by Girl // February 24, 2016 // No Comments

Today I went to get my facial done. And I finally said “no”. Background I have been going to the beauty boutique�for close to two years. I enjoy their service. In short, my�beautician�has good skills. BUT they always manage to... Continue reading →

A moving CoDa meeting

by Girl // February 20, 2016 // No Comments

CoDa meeting this week was pretty�huge�for me. It was my second attempt at “letting myself cry” During last group, I told everyone how I have started going for CoDa again after quite a while. And that I teared�almost the whole... Continue reading →

My first CoDa outreach

by Girl // February 2, 2016 // No Comments

On New Year’s Eve, I did an “outreach” to a CoDa member. This is something that can be done when you feel the burning need to�talk to someone, simply to share if you need a listening ear, or to get... Continue reading →

Being in therapy is not a weakness

by Girl // January 14, 2016 // No Comments

Being in therapy is not a weakness. That’s what my Group Therapy mate told me a few weeks ago. In fact, it’s a strength. You are brave enough to seek help. You’re a trailblazer for someone from your culture. What... Continue reading →

No shame in having enough sleep

by Girl // January 11, 2016 // No Comments

There is no shame in having enough sleep. This is what I said aloud to my husband, as he was falling asleep on the couch (as he usually does). It may have spoken to him more than I expected. He... Continue reading →

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