Fear of rejection: It’s not me, it’s them

by Girl // July 8, 2016 // No Comments

on Instagram: http://ift.tt/1UuxLCO Epiphany: I realise my mortal fear of rejection by anyone comes from the years of being around my overly critical mother. I never felt accepted by the closest people in my life. So I fought back a... Continue reading →

I can’t adult today

by Girl // April 9, 2016 // No Comments

Yup. I can’t adult today. Grown-ass women can totally have ? for dinner! ?: @bettymagazine A post shared by xoVain (@xovain) on Mar 28, 2016 at 3:49pm PDT Continue reading →

The 4 A’s everyone needs: Attention, Affection, Approval, Acceptance

by Girl // April 3, 2016 // 9 Comments

I was made aware during group therapy today by Steve that I was a hungry person growing up (left starving) and now the situation has not changed, after my new phase in life — marriage. He helped me see that I... Continue reading →

Crying and Dancing

by Girl // March 4, 2016 // No Comments

During group therapy last week, there are two new things on my to-do list: Cry Dance No, I don’t think I’m meant to do both at the same time! Getting in touch with my feelings The purpose of finding a time alone... Continue reading →

A moving CoDa meeting

by Girl // February 20, 2016 // No Comments

CoDa meeting this week was pretty huge for me. It was my second attempt at “letting myself cry” During last group, I told everyone how I have started going for CoDa again after quite a while. And that I teared almost the whole... Continue reading →

Parenting advice: I'm a person not a problem

Parenting Advice 1

by Girl // February 8, 2016 // No Comments

I am a person, not a problem. “My thoughts and opinions and interests may be different than yours, but they are no less valid, no less important, because I am no less a person than you are. Respecting my person,... Continue reading →

Inner Child healing: Session 1

by Girl // February 2, 2016 // No Comments

Steve started very powerful theme for Group at the beginning of this year — our “inner children”. More specifically, dealing with and healing our inner child. He tells us that no one ever grows up; adults are simply big kids.... Continue reading →

Detaching in love: My parents are “dead”

by Girl // January 20, 2016 // 15 Comments

Today is the day I finally accept that my parents are dead. More specifically, today is the day I come to terms that my IDEA of an ideal father and mother are dead. These “ideal” people do not exist My hope that... Continue reading →

No shame in having enough sleep

by Girl // January 11, 2016 // No Comments

There is no shame in having enough sleep. This is what I said aloud to my husband, as he was falling asleep on the couch (as he usually does). It may have spoken to him more than I expected. He... Continue reading →

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A Recovering Codependent . . .

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